‘I Suck at Everything’ or I am a failure are some phrases we all must have said or heard others say it. Mostly, such kind of thoughts surround ourselves when we face failure and believe what our brain feeds us; negativity.
Such thoughts that make us see ourselves differently and that constantly tell us that we are good for nothing, stress us more than the stressful condition we are in.
But the burning question here is why do such thoughts come in our mind or how can we get rid of them? Here are the answers to both!
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- 1 I Suck at Everything – Know 6 Reasons Why?
- 1.1 1. You Don’t Set Achievable Goals
- 1.2 2. You Choose Comfort over Courage
- 1.3 3. You Procrastinate Often – I Suck at Everything
- 1.4 4. You Fear Imperfection – I Suck at Everything
- 1.5 5. Your Focus is Out of Focus – I Suck at Everything
- 1.6 6. You Underestimate Yourself – I Suck at Everything
- 2 I Suck at Everything – 4 Practical Tips on How Not to?
- 3 Conclusion – I Suck at Everything
I Suck at Everything – Know 6 Reasons Why?
1. You Don’t Set Achievable Goals
There are two cases with goal setting. Among these two, one is that you don’t set goals at all and second is if you set them, they are not realistic. So you fail to achieve them in the designated time which discourages you and makes you feel like you can’t achieve anything in life.
Remember that wandering aimlessly without any goal will not take you anywhere. Most probably, you’ll remain stuck where you are without making any notable progress in your field. As you’ll not know which direction to take to reach the other level.
What to Do: Set Realistic Goals
Now you don’t want to suck at every goal you make? Don’t you? So set goals that are clear & attainable. And goals that you know you can achieve in a particular time.
2. You Choose Comfort over Courage
You don’t try different things to find your true taste and potential. Remember that coming out of the comfort zone needs courage and bravery.
But because you fear failure, you fear that if you came out of your comfort zone and failed none the less, you would never be able to get on your feet again, so you choose comfort over courage.
You keep your dreams under lid because you fear that you would fail to achieve them. For instance, you want to start a new business but you don’t start it. Why? Because you believe that you would fail.
What to Do: Accept Failure is a Part of Growth
Remember that every successful person today has once faced lots of failures in life but he/she never admitted that failure, the failure of their life. And they stood again to fought with more courage.
3. You Procrastinate Often – I Suck at Everything
You have got two days to complete a task but you keep delaying it until you’re left with only a few hours to complete it. And then you fail to complete it on time and feel embarrassed when you submit your assignment late.
You feel that you can’t do anything properly. And say that you suck at everything but it’s your habit of procrastination that makes you lose your confidence and self-esteem in front of others.
What To Do: Stop Postponing the Tasks
Procrastination is the thief of time. And it is nothing but a trap that makes us fall into it. So keep reminding yourself that you have to save yourself from falling into that trap no matter what.
4. You Fear Imperfection – I Suck at Everything
You want to be perfect at, like, EVERYTHING! Like, you want to look perfect, get perfect grades and do everything perfect.
And because perfection can’t be achieved (that you might not understand now but will eventually) you start blaming yourself that you can’t do anything perfect it life and you suck at everything.
What To Do: Accept Perfection is An Illusion
Admit that perfection is nothing but an illusion. Accept your flaws that make you, YOU. And stop degrading and comparing yourself to others.
5. Your Focus is Out of Focus – I Suck at Everything
You want to do so many things that you fail to focus on one task at a time and give your full potential in completing it. This happens a lot of time that we have many projects at hand and do not give that attention to important tasks that it needs.
What To Do: Adjust Your Focus
Remember that you can’t invest your energy into everything. You have to give your 100% to tasks that are more important.
6. You Underestimate Yourself – I Suck at Everything
Due to some failure that you faced in the past, you believe that you can’t stand again. So you think others are way better than you are. And you admire others but fail to see the talents you have. Every person has something special in them, you don’t see that something special in yourself.
So you believe that you suck at everything even though that’s not true at all. You have developed this habit of always underestimating yourself.
I Suck at Everything – 4 Practical Tips on How Not to?
If you keep believing that ‘I Suck at Everything’ you will keep boosting your inner bully by admitting what it is feeding your mind. Here are some useful tips that’ll help you come out of this feeling.
1. Ask for Help If You Think You Need It
Self-loathing, if kept unleashed for longer, becomes a dangerous habit. Due to it, you degrade yourself without even knowing it and let your inner bully abuse your mind with constant negative thoughts.
So try to find the root behind such negative thoughts. Why and from where do they come? What specifically causes them?
If you can’t figure out the answers on your own then seek for the help. Talk to your friend, family or any doctor who you can trust. Because someone who is unbiased will hear you and understand you without judging you in any way.
This can bring a huge improvement in your habit of negative self-talk. As sharing your heart out will unburden you and let other people help you. They will guide you and help you find the answers you are looking for.
2.Surround Yourself in A Positive Environment
You are a product of your environment so it is important to make sure your environment is free of toxic people. People you surround yourself into, shape your personality and behavior in many ways.
If you keep company of those who keep telling you that you are good for nothing, then it is better to keep your distance from them. They will intoxicate your brain and pollute it with more negative thoughts.
Stay around those who push you when you fall and give you a helping hand when you need it. Positive energy coming out of positive people will give you what you really need; a positive environment.
Positive environment will encourage you to see yourself beyond what your inner bully tells you, you are. It will make you courageous to come out of your comfort zone and explore different things.
3. Allow Yourself to be Imperfect
Do not overburden yourself by wishing to be perfect every time. If you make a mistake and find your inner bully tell you how useless you, remind yourself that you are just a human and not a robotic machine.
Always remember that humans are meant to make mistakes. Among billions residing the planet earth, no one, not even a single person is all perfect. So next time you make a mistake tell yourself that it is OK to do that. You will try better next time.
Write somewhere that whatever task you are doing will not be perfect. You will feel relaxed and unburdened. For instance, I am completing a gig so I would say
‘I allow myself to complete this task at hand and not do it perfectly.’ Oh, it felt so good.
4. Break Free of Unhealthy Comparison Trap
Don’t become a victim of the comparison trap. Don’t fall for it no matter what. Comparison trap tells you how good others, your Instagram friends, are living their lives (filtered-lives that show only one side).
It makes you lose your self-esteem and trap you in a dark pit that surrounds you more & more if you don’t come out of it timely.
Comparison is a joy-killer. So every time comparison tries to sneak into your mind, tell yourself that success is putting your all effort into the work and then accepting the results without comparing them with your friends, colleague’s or someone else’s results.
Be happy with what you have. You are unique so is your life. And it can’t be the same as someone else’s life is. You may not perform as good as others do but that can’t stop you from being happy with what you get by putting your best efforts.
Conclusion – I Suck at Everything
Remember that there is always some room for improvement. If you are not good at something then with patience and practice you can be. Just keep going without fearing failure and have faith. Things will get better very soon!